I found out that some of my friends at work did not know what Asexual meant, or at-least had the wrong idea of what it is supposed to mean! So I thought to myself, I said "Babby Sue", what If I put a list of terminology together that allows people to have a better understanding of particular words explaining a persons sexual or non sexual identity?" (PS. I don't really call myself Babby Sue, I just thought that was funny). That is how I came up with this weeks blog post, in which I post bloggity blogs, of bloggness!
This week, I talk about the LGBTQIA community, and the terms along with it!
Well gurl, I'mma tell you now....
LGBTQIA+, is the complete acronym. Usually it's referred to as LGBT, and in total the acronym stands for the following.
• Lesbian
• Gay
• Bisexual
• Transgender
• Questioning/Queer
• Intersex
• Asexual
• + = Anything else
Some people consider the A as in Ally, which stands for a heterosexual who is for the LGBTQIA community, and is someone who helps fight for gay rights. This makes no sense, since straight people are straight, and do not belong in the LGBT community, because they are not LGBT. A is for asexual. Since then, more letters have been added in the ever increasing alphabet, of the LGBT community.
I'd explain the other parts now, but I will be explaining them shortly anyways.
Sexuality
Sexuality is not in black and white, it comes in all colors, shapes, sizes and flavors (Such as lemon).
It may seem pretty basic, but sexuality is quite fluid and it's everywhere, all over the place and not always that simple to figure out.
First you have the three most basic and well known sexualities.
Heterosexuality - A Heterosexual is someone who has sexual attraction towards the opposite gender.
Bisexuality - A Bisexual is someone who has the sexual attraction to both genders, male and female.
Homosexuality - A Homosexual is someone who has sexual attraction towards the same gender.
Bisexuality is very fluid, there are plenty of people who not just black and white.
Some people are mostly attracted to women and sometimes men, or mostly attracted to men and sometimes women. Some are just attracted to both genders equally, it varies per person.
There are people who will be all over every person of the opposite gender, but will find just one person of the same sex that they are crazy for! Vice versa too.
I knew two people, a boy and a girl, non affiliated with each other. One was a gay dude, and he loved men, but one day, he met a girl and fell in love with her and just couldn't be without her.
The same thing happened to my lesbian friend, out of no where met this guy and they are/were inseparable. I do not know them anymore, so I don't know how they are or if they are still together.
You also hear about someone who was straight, but one day found someone of the same sex and just fell in love.
As well as stories about someone who was in a heterosexual relationship for 20 years and just one day, met someone of the same sex and just went for them instead. Anything can happen!
Two of my best friends are bisexual, and they both gear towards men. One of them is sexually and romantically into men, and finds women attractive in a non sexual way, he doesn't usually want to be with a woman romantically..
While the other one is into men and women, but gears more towards men.
You also hear about lot's of celebrities having man crushes or women crushes, I would say they are mostly heterosexual, but (Possibly/Potentially) slightly bisexual.
These are quite possibly the most common sexualities known, but there are plenty more where that came from!
Fun Fact: Heterosexuals and Homosexuals are actually in the minority, the fact of the matter is, most people are bisexual, even if a little bit. Back in medieval times, there was a king who only liked women, and everyone thought it was the weirdest thing, because mostly everyone else was bisexual! I forgot which king it was, which is a shame because it just sounds like I am taking non existent history out of thin air. (If anyone knows about this, let me know! I'd love to add more to this post about it!)
The kinsey scale is a useful tool for grasping the heterosexual, bisexual and homosexual scale. Source
0 Exclusively heterosexual
1 Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual
2 Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3 Equally heterosexual and homosexual
4 Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5 Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual
6 Exclusively homosexual
X No socio-sexual contacts or reactions
As for me, I would say I am 100% 6. What are you?
Unless of course, you fit somewhere else!
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| Picture by moi |
Other sexualities include...
Asexuality - An Asexual is a person who does not have sexual attraction towards anyone. (There are other forms of Asexuality, that I will get into later.)
Pansexuality (Also known as Omnisexuality) - Pansexuality has always been a difficult sexuality to explain, it is similar to bisexuality, but slightly different. Bisexuals are sexually attracted to men and women, where as pansexual people, ( are not attracted to pans, that is in fact a myth!) we will get to people who are into pans later.. but that is not now...
Pansexuals are attracted to not only men and women, but every gender! This includes everyone in between and out between..
This includes men, women, transgendered people, intersex, gender queer and androgynous people.
Another part that one could include, is that pansexuals don't see gender, they see love.. and that is pretty important!
Polysexuality - Is the attraction to many genders, but not all of them.
Demisexuality - Demisexual is a more open term for asexuality, and a assure you, it has nothing to do with Demi Lavato. :P
Demisexuality is a lack of attraction (Or a fleeting attractiong) towards anyone, unless they form an emotional bond with another person. They won't find many people attractive, and it may be hard for them to be aroused by someone, until they form that connection with them.
Some other forms of asexuality could be that someone is asexual, but they like to have sex. Or it could mean that someone is not interested in sex, but would like to fall in love, it's a wide range of different combinations of asexuality with a pinch of sexuality.
Gray-asexual - Is someone who experiences sexual attraction very rarely, they're basically in between asexual and sexual.
Queer - Is an umbrella term that can mean so many different things, it can mean heterosexual, homosexual, asexual, bisexual, polysexual... etc.. it's basically a word to use if someone would rather not define themselves as one sexuality.
Now that we have an understanding of sexualities, let's touch base with some other types of sexual preferences.
Chronophilia Chronophilia is attraction towards different groups of age. In this list, I'm only adding three Chronophilia's, since the others are illegal, and wrong. For more information on Chronophilia, check out the wikipedia page.
Teleiophilia - Is the attraction towards adults.
Mesophilia - The attraction towards middle aged adults.
Gerontophilia - Is the attraction towards the elderly. (Basically, the only type of people that will like the shock site Lemon Party.) (DO NOT LOOK IT UP!!! Well, unless you're into the elderly that is...)
Androphilia and Gynephilia
Androphilia - Is the attraction towards males and or masculinity.
Gynephilia - Is the attraction towards females and or femininity.
Ambiphilic - Is the attraction towards males/masculinity and females/femininity.
Autogynephilia and AutoAndrophilia
AutoAndrophilia - Is the sexual arousal of someone imagining themselves as a man.
Autogynephilia - Is the sexual arousal of someone imagining themselves as a woman.
Sex and Gender Identity
Sex - Is the biological parts of someone's body, sex organs, chromosones, what sex someone was born as, male or female.
Gender - Is the inner feelings of what gender they feel they are, man or woman. Gender does not equal sex. It is what you feel on the inside.
Man (Male)- Someone who identifies themselves with the male gender.
Woman (Female)- Someone who identifies themselves with the female gender.
Here are two videos about gender.
Transgender - Is someone who has become the other gender, that they feel is correct.
Transexual - Is the state, or gender expression of not being the correct sex, someone who wishes and becomes the gender they want to be, biologically and mentally.
Cisgender - The opposite of Transgender. The persons feelings of being the sex they were born as, and not wanting to be another gender. So if you were born male, and are not transgender, you are cisgender.
Intersex - Is someone whose reproductive, or sexual anatomy do not fit the usual male or female definitions.
Genderqueer - Is an umbrella term for genders, they may feel male and female at the same time, or neither.. etc..
Pangender - Is a word used to describe someone who feels they do not fit into either gender categories, or even more than one gender category.
Third Gender - Similar to Pangender, but instead the person involved does not feel like they are female or male... but another gender.
Androgynous - Is someone who has both male and female characteristics and appearances.
Transvestiteism and Crossdressing - Transvestites are people who dress and act like another gender, the same can be applied to crossdressing, except it sometimes carries a lighter meaning of just wearing another gender's clothes.
Masculinity - Is a set of characteristics associated with the male sex.
Femininity - Is a set of characteristics associated with the female sex.
Questioning - Is someone who is unsure and questioning either their sexuality, gender and or sexual identity.
LGBT Terms
Heteronormativity - Is the view of people falling into heterosexual societal norms. For example, someone who is heteronormative sees heterosexuality as the only normal sexuality, and never thinks about other sexualities. They will also assume a person is heterosexual, because of their sex, and ppearance.
Heterosexism - Is an attitude that favors heterosexuality and discriminates against homosexual, bisexual and other sexualities.
Homonormativity - Is the view of people falling into homosexual societal norms. For example, someone who is homonormative sees homosexuality as the only normal sexuality and never thinks about other sexualities.
Homosexism - Is an attitude that favors homosexuality and discriminates against heterosexual, bisexual and other sexualities
Homophobia/Lesphobia - Is the dislike and prejudice of homosexual people.
Biphobia - Is the dislike and prejudice of bisexual people.
Heterophobia - Is the dislike and prejudice of heterosexual people.
Transphobia - Is the dislike and prejudice of transgendered people.
Did you know?
Homophobia is more often seen in individuals who have unrealized attraction to the same sex, and grew up in a family where homosexuality is seen as "Wrong", and "Evil". This is why any day of the week you find out about some anti-gay politician, secretly had a Grindr account the whole time, and was hooking up with guys the entire time!A Thought
Homophobia is more often seen in individuals who have unrealized attraction to the same sex, and grew up in a family where homosexuality is seen as "Wrong", and "Evil". This is why any day of the week you find out about some anti-gay politician, secretly had a Grindr account the whole time, and was hooking up with guys the entire time!A Thought
If you ask me, anyone who says that "Being gay is a choice". Just has to be a closeted bisexual, because then they are "choosing", not to realize their same sex attractions! It's the only logical thing.
For some comics about the LGBTQI community, check out this awesome link below!
http://www.buzzfeed.com/connorkemuo/honest-comics-for-the-queer-soul
Anything missing? Let me know in the comments below!
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