Here is me, venting!
People who assume I, or anyone else is Straight:
It annoys me how most people In the real world (And sometimes online), automatically assume I am heterosexual. Just because I am not a flamboyant, or feminine male, does not mean I can't be lgbt, and same for the other way around. All because a male is flamboyant, or feminine, doesn't mean they're lgbt either. I know straight guys who are flamboyant, a friend of mine knows a straight guy who cross dresses, one of my best friends is a bisexual cross-dresser, he likes everyone!! All because someone appears one way, doesn't mean they're one thing, or another. Sure, there are more heterosexuals than homosexuals, but it is still not a cool, and inconsiderate thing to just assume I'm straight. Just because I don't fit the type, or that someone else is gay because they dyed their hair once.
For some reason, society has this thought that the only way a male can be gay, is if they're feminine/flamboyant. Which is not true at all, there are plenty of gay men that are regular guys. There are plenty of straight guys, who have feminine qualities. As I edit this article in 2019, I HAVE MET MANY STRAIGHT MEN, who have feminine characteristics. I had a crush on a dude, who would do project runway poses, but he was straight as a wooden ruler! I have a straight guy friend who loves Ru-Pauls drag race, and everyone thinks he's gay. (By everyone, I mean three people.) but he's not, he likes girls.
The same would apply for women, they could be feminine, and like girls. I've also met plenty of straight women, who were tomboys. In fact, a few straight women I know in the real world, are more of a man than I could ever be.
Because society has created this horrible stereotype, It has created this monster in people. They assume everyone is heterosexual until proven otherwise. In fact, I would go on a limb to suggest that many/most straight people don't even think gay people exist, until someone gay is right in front of them. Like they could walk into a room of 1000 people, and not think any of them could be gay. The only time they'd think someone was gay, is if it was "blatantly obvious" they will assume they are gay. 10 years ago, when I wrote this, the term would have been metrosexual. But now, straight guys are being themselves, and are showing more feminine characteristics. You really can't just judged a book by it's cover.
I think the worst part for me is when IRL, someone assumes I am heterosexual, that I am too shy to correct them!(As of 2019, I'm getting better at not being shy about it. I'm just concerned if someone is a homophobe, I wouldn't want them to know, because I don't want to deal with the drama!)
I had one guy at my retail job ask me if I wanted him to hook me up with a female friend of his with big breasts (That is putting what he said mildly).
I just told him no maybe 5 times (because he kept pushing... Are you sure? YES I AM SURE I DO NOT WANT TO DATE YOUR FEMALE FRIEND!!!), but I didn't tell him why. Which gets annoying because he has asked me at least three times on three different days, and months. Like why does a straight guy care so much about me getting a girlfriend, is beyond me.
Although, I am sure there are plenty of heterosexual, bisexual and pansexual men who do not want to date random women who they have never seen or met before. As well as homosexual, bisexual and pansexual women.
There was one time though, where he asked me in the break room. I was under the impression that my one friend told him about my sexuality, because he started calling one of our male co workers my boyfriend. (Which ended up just being a random coincidence.)
But when he asked me if I had a girlfriend, or something under that line. I said "I thought "Insert co-worker/friend's name here" told you something about me that would make you not ask that question anymore.".
And one of the girls I was becoming friends with named Latifah, said she thought she knew why I had said that.
Eventually he asked me if I'd rather sleep with Ashley, or Cerina. (I changed the names for privacy reasons). When I told him "Scott, you know, the security guard". He looked at me like I had five heads, I said. "What? You never asked me what gender I was attracted to!". After that, he never tried to set me up with girls again. Ironically enough, he was also quite flirty with me, and even admitted it once.
At the time, Latifah, my other friend Karina, and my friend Victor's mother, are the only ones at the time, that figured out my sexuality all by themselves, not counting certain family members.
Another time I walked into work, and I had a new hair cut. One of the managers went "Nice hair cut, you'll get all of the chicks!" or something along the lines of that. I think she said girls not chicks, but she sure does use the word chicks a whole lot.
I just kept walking, and muttered under my breath that I don't want that.
She even went to a male customer the other day, and asked him if he was getting a gift bag for his chick. She was right that one time, he was getting the gift bag for his girlfriend.
I think she has asked me if I had a girlfriend one time, and I just said no. I just couldn't say why, because I was shy.
The guy Scott, that I mentioned before, was my crush at the time. She would always ask about "his chick".
I know she doesn't know my sexuality, but it kind of bothers me though. I know I have to get over him anyway since he's a straight guy. I get dull faced and a sad thought process, but I have no idea if my face changes and people notice. (EDIT from 2019, girl, there are so many better looking guys you end up liking later on anyways)
But then an image pops in my mind of my friends from college, and they're screaming at me going "IT DOESN'T"T MATTER IF HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND!! YOU JUST HAVE TO SEDUCE HIM!!!". I love my friends from college, they're awesome. XD
That actually happened too, just not in that context. I just told them I liked a security guy at work and that he had a girlfriend. They just told me it didn't matter, and that he'll already have handcuffs. lmao.
For some reason, I think it would be easier if I wasn't single, I might have the courage to just say "I don't have a girlfriend, but I do have a boyfriend!". That seems like something that sums things up pretty quickly! I feel like that could be easy for me to say.
There's also the other part where I am afraid to tell people my sexuality, as not everyone is cool with it.
I just hate how everyone thinks I am heterosexual because I am not flamboyant or feminine, I am just your average guy who likes anime and video games. I just so happen to also like the body, face and genitals of a man and want to fall in love with one. That, and I have no attraction to women at all. (They're icky) :P
Gay People are totally flaunting their sexuality!:
I also hate it when people say that gay people are flaunting their sexuality. GAY PEOPLE ARE NOT FLAUNTING THEIR SEXUALITY!
The reason why there are idiots who say gay people are flaunting their sexuality, is because they aren't used to it because of societies dislike for the LGBT community. Because gay people are condemned from the world, there is no exposure of them, so due to the lack of exposure. Straight people think they're "flaunting" it because they just haven't seen it enough to see gay people as the norm. For instance, If they were reborn in a time where men hold each other's hands, and same for women, they would NEVER say or think that. They would think that LGBT people are just like everyone else and wouldn't bat an eye. But because it's rare and not considered the norm it's considered flaunting because they haven't seen enough gay exposure. They're simply not used to it, and think it's int their face when they see it that one time.
They could have a movie, where there's a minor gay character in the background, that gets 10 seconds of limelight. Out of a 2 hour long movie, people will complain saying that "Gay character was unneeded", and how they're "okay with gay people, but they didn't need this character to be gay, or in their face". People like that need to GET...OVER...YOURSELVES!!! The world does not revolve around you, there are always going to be people that are different than you are, grow up!
If anyone is flaunting their sexuality, it would be straight people. You can find straight people holding hands, kissing, being "cute". You see straight people half naked with each other in ads, on tv, you see them in tv shows and movies. Sitcoms, and other shows usually revolve around a straight family, and about how boys like girls, and like manly stuff. While girls like boys, and like girly things like dolls. Not only do straight people possibly flaunt their sexuality, by being everywhere, and sucking each others faces off. But they also promote people in gender roles. (Like what you like, and not like things because it's supposed to be for "boys", or for "girls". Gender roles are formed by society to put us in boxes! )
STRAIGHT PEOPLE ARE EVERYWHERE, being very sexual with each other. The one time a gay couple holds hands, everyone loses their minds. It's ridiculous, and hypocritical.
When I see straight people kissing, or anything. I just ignore it and move on, I don't complain about it like some whiny bitch.
With idiots thinking everyone is straight, many of us have no choice but to constantly say that we are gay. Which is what the straights consider "Flaunting our sexuality". Listen here, if you're assuming I'm straight, and I have to come out to you as not straight. You're the one flaunting your heterosexuality to me, by assuming I'm what you are.
If society didn't assume everyone was straight, then no one would have to come out and say they are gay or bi. In which no one would be "flaunting" their sexuality, even though they aren't though.
Why isn't there a straight pride day?
There are other people who will say... "Why isn't there a straight pride day?". Gay pride is just like mother's day or father's day. Every other day is kids day, in which every other day is straight people day. The LGBT community barely exists, and the only way to get recognized is to hold events and get more out there so people can understand that not everyone is the same, as well as teach tolerance and love.
With Gay pride, we finally get to be heard, known and seen. We barely exist in this world due to many straight people and their ignorance, hatred towards us.
Which is when I realized that some people will never understand certain things because they are just too ignorant to get it.
LGBT people are constantly murdered, attacked, kicked out of their houses, banned from stores/restaurants, banned from adopting, or donating blood. (Which is ironic because then blood banks complain that no one's donating blood... well maybe don't ostracize an entire group for being ignorant! LGBT people are so careful with preventing diseases, that they're probably more disease free than the straight people!!)
It is however a fact, that some people of any shape and size will flaunt themselves for various reasons, ut that is really a tiny portion of people, and should not reflect everyone because it doesn't!
I sure as hell don't flaunt anything, I'm too shy to tell anyone anything that isn't my first name.
In reality though, there will be gay people who do flaunt it, but not a whole lot of people at all, especially if the world consists of 10% of gay people. If anything, these gay people just like to be flashy, and wear crazy outfits, and act extra.
Ironically, the only reason why we have gay pride. Is because STRAIGHT PEOPLE, are the ones being prejudice in the first place! If there weren't so many homophobes in the world, and everyone was accepting of LGBT people, we wouldn't need a gay pride in the first place. So if you want someone to blame, that's on straight people!!
The word Gay, (DAS GAY MAN):
For a very long time, I hated the word "Gay". Many people used/use it to mean "Stupid". To me, it feels like I'm just calling myself stupid, instead of calling myself someone who likes guys. So I usually used the word "homosexual", or my made up word "Curved". (Because like, why are straight people straight, and gay people are gay? Wouldn't it make more sense if gay people were Curved?)
Lot's of times, I just say something like, oh I like guys.. etc..
As of 2019, I'm getting way more used to the word Gay, and not using Homosexual. I've also realized that sometimes when a word becomes negative, you have to use your power to take it back! Make it mean something positive again!
The following are fun quotes you can use to describe your sexuality.
1. Sorry, I like Hot dogs, not tacos.
2. I like Churros, not donuts.
3. And my favorite, which is "I like the pole and not the hole". Which so far I told one person and I don't think they got it.....
4. My friend Victor said if a girl flirts with me, I should say. "I would tear that up, but unfortunately, you have the wrong parts. Now, if you have a brother, bring him over!". lol
Right now, I honestly think the only way for people to not put me in the heterosexual category is to just get a giant rainbow colored tattoo that just says "IS GAY" on my forehead!
I'd be on the 10 o clock news... "23 year old boy gets beaten for tattoo on forehead."
I wouldn't be surprised if some people still didn't get the message =_=".
It'd be like "DO YOU WANT ME TO SHOW YOU WHAT THAT MEANS YOU GIANT IMBECILE! WHERE'S THE ACTOR GEORGE EADS AND I'LL SHOW YOU WHAT IT MEANS!". (2019 Me: Oh my, 2013 me sure was something else wasn't I....)
Why are straight men hot? It's not cool.:
I'd also like to make a short paragraph on my frustration that 99.9% percent of the men I have ever crushed on were straight guys! It's so not cool, and unfair. Most gay men I found to be unattractive, so I also sometimes worry If I will ever meet anyone.
Although, it's also true that I don't go anywhere... so....yeah.
Although, sometimes I just wish I was asexual, cause then I could just do more fun things and not worry about men related issues. XD
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